Stoat (formerly known as Revolt) is a selfhostable, FOSS replacement for discord [Group chats and voice channels you can join any time].
Cool new name, however not as easy to use in other languages.
Voice chat is stil not officialy implemented.
Self-hosting there. Apparently nothing to do for you if you had already hosted before the name change.
The Android app has unfortunately disappeared (not been updated) on F-droid.
Edit: added short description for clarification
what’s really federation on a system that isolates conversations per server? can you reply to a message from one server on another? maybe the main thing would be single account, because even friend lists from multiple accounts could be merged