• Alaik@lemmy.zip
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    4 days ago

    No I mean… you’re right. A lot of people are now claiming ADHD prevents them from being anything but a leech. It’s disrespectful as fuck to people with ADHD who bust their ass overcoming their disability. Its almost always from someone “self-diagnosed” also.

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      For some (like me) it’s less “overcome” and more “manage to the best of my ability”.

      Sometimes I will forget something important. I forget interactions with people the next fucking day. I sit and scroll for hours on my phone and scream internally to get the fuck up and just not be able to.

      Certain things help. But you can definitely be more then a leach.

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        Yep, but you’re trying. No one with actual ADHD is ever going to fully overcome it. I’m referring to the people who magically have crippling ADHD when it comes to being responsible with anything (Chores, a job, etc.) But if its something they want to do they’re magically fine. They can listen to instructions and follow them keenly when their family is taking them paragliding, but they couldn’t wash a dish for 8 seconds.

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          That’s part of ADHD for a lot of people: hyperfixation/focus on topics that interest them, and struggles otherwise.

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            Yup. It’s something that’s crippling to us for sure, but imo doesn’t hurt to acknowledge that it makes us a total piece of work for our surroundings.

            What I take the person above to say is that there’s just too many people who expect everyone else to accept their annoying habits.

            Which, well, I don’t even accept in myself so it’d be rich to expect others to do.

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              Well, suicide is on the table, since we aren’t even allowed to live in a tent in some forest, society is literally forcing us to interact (which we can’t do safely).

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          My understanding is that this is because it’s a dopamine problem. Some (many?) ADHD folks are wired such that they only function when their brains’ reward centers are getting pinged. That’s why they struggle with chores or bills or other ‘adult’ tasks that require focus but no feeling of reward or satisfaction until much later. According to my partner it’s a source of a tremendous amount of guilt and self-esteem problems.

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          So I guess AuADHD just doesn’t exist to you then, huh? You have no clue about proper mental health and the challenges people experience.

          Seriously, shut the fuck up.

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          It’s on a scale. Some ARE that disabled, like down syndrome tier disabled.

          As for me, even if I was, I’m still getting paid, and the only way someone is finding out is if I accidentaly kill someone (serves them right).

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      You don’t “overcome” your disability, you just get insults, especially against your character. You get accused of trying to slack, accused of playing dumb, Faking, and labor for very little, when all it would take is for employers to get out of your way, let you use your coping tools, notes, videos, and not try to force you to do things the way they do because they can, and it is somehow “unfair” not to.

      I can and would just do my fucking job, if someone didn’t fucking yell at the top of their lungs, because I didn’t do a given task in order (still finished it).