Edit: I just realized this is more a meme community, if this is not allowed please remove my question

My wife has ADHD, she was officially diagnosed. I never got tested but I would not at all be surprised if I have ADD or ADHD.

My son is almost 6 and I think it’s very possible he will develop ADHD.

At school he is the ony child that has his own little desk, because he gets very distracted working in a group.

At home he can completely get absorbed in something he does, like lego or watching tv. To the point where I have to turn the TV off to ask him a question (otherwise he just doesn’t respond at all). He forgets to eat or drink when we don’t ask him multiple times.

I would like to hear from people that have ADHD, what would you have liked your parents would have done when you where really young?

For example would you think it’s better to try to get a diagnose asap or would it be better to wait until he is older?

What other things could work to get daily things done? Like getting dressed without me having to ask 16 times.

  • HumanoidTyphoon@quokk.auEnglish
    25·
    13 hours ago

    I would have liked my parents to have been understanding of the fact that I had anywhere from serious difficulties up to and including inability, to do things they took for granted as necessary parts of life. Unfortunately they chose the methods of constantly yelling at me, belittling me, and being utterly dismissive and respectless.

    • bier@feddit.nlOPEnglish
      4·
      11 hours ago

      That sucks! I honestly (as a father) can’t even imagine raising a kid like this, I definitely make mistakes, but try to support both my kids as much as I can.

      • Cenzorrll@lemmy.worldEnglish
        2·
        4 hours ago

        I feel you and as a stepparent to an ADHD/autism kid, it will get extremely frustrating at times. Therapy might be necessary, it will help give you and your kid the skills to build…skills… to deal with things. Professionals are better at it than us. There are a lot of different ways ADHD/autism presents, and they all have different hurdles.

        I highly recommend you start building habits now for the activities they struggle the most with and it is extremely important that you build self-care habits (taking breaks for water, food, shower, etc.), because if it doesn’t become a habit, it will become a struggle, and you will both struggle.

        Its important to keep in mind that your kid will be struggling with happiness neurotransmitters. They’ll be searching for dopamine hits however they can, and it can lead to addictive habits that make things spiral and crash (videogames, foods, anything really)