I mean, it’s not like that at all, but it’s ok to not care for it still. Lemmy is a federated platform, just like Pixelfed is, and Mastodon, etc. Those would be the providers in the example from before.

Edit to add: Literally every time the word “instance” comes up in the manner noted above, it’s woth regard to a Lemmy instance, or a Mastodon instance, and rarely if ever have I noticed a reference to a “fediverse instance”. I have no clue where your comparison comes from.

I would think the jargon would be “I chose fedia.io as my Lemmy provider,” or similar for other federated platforms.