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At that point I’d rather use a half functioning Linux phone than a locked down one. Hopefully stuff like Framework and Fairphone will follow through on making parts available for real old devices.

Nice! Not sure how you ended up with it saying “UP” on your interface, but if it works it works

enx0 is your wifi, nothing wrong there. Look for enp0 instead, that’s your ethernet.

Grepping for the interface may not be what you need to do, if NetworkManager is not bringing your ethernet up due to a different issue, so you’ll want to reboot and look at the logs again starting from the latest restart (it’ll mark that with a date/time stamp in the logs).

From what I can see on my phone, NetworkManager is enabled but not running. What happens if you do sudo systemctl restart NetworkManager or just do a reboot? If it stays “loaded” instead of “running” after, check the logs with journalctl -xeu NetworkManager (pgup and pgdown to scroll)

You’re pretty much describing Tailscale with an exit node on the VPS. If the purpose of the VPS is to make their traffic not come from your home, you can omit the VPS entirely as Tailscale only routes through the VPN when reaching services also on the VPN.

Edit: to self host it, look into Headscale, but the default, hosted control server works well too.

Depending on your specs, I don’t think you need to buy hardware. You can scale later if you run out of resources. This is how I’d separate your stuff:

• Desktop: SteamOS (or Bazzite IMO), for gaming. Install Kodi on it for the HTPC interface, and add a shortcut to it on the big picture UI
• RPi: Home Assistant OS. They have images for the Pi, which will let you install updates and addons from the gui. Addons are just containers, so you may be able to run a service or two if you run out of resources on the other machines.
• Compute stick: Some server OS (I personally like Fedora Server, but loads of options are available here. Bazzite is Fedora based, so you can use knowledge you gain on one, on the other). Nextcloud (reconsider this, Nextcloud is a complaint magnet from what I can well, there are alternatives to most of its functions), your *arrs, torrent client etc. Stuff that is okay if it goes down for a bit.
• Laptop: Same OS as the compute stick. Whatever doesn’t fit the stick, plus Pihole/Adguard. For DNS though, I’d recommend using a cloud provider instead of self hosted, because if it goes down, you’ll be stuck reconfiguring your DNS before fixing it (since if dns goes down, you can’t easily access websites to look up stuff). IMO NextDNS is a good option, both free and paid tiers, and it does adblock lists too.

Edit:

• For remote management, ZeroTier and Tailscale are both good options at the moment. I use Tailscale, but they recently announced they want to IPO at some point, so I’ll be moving to Headscale (the self hosted version essentially) if they start enshittifying.
• For remote gaming, check if Steam remote play works, or set up a Sunshine server on your PC.