I can’t do that on my own. No way. So I’m into BDSM and bondage.
Yes, bondage is just my way to be able to. meditate. (Ok, it’s being fixed in a decently comfortable position, having trust to who binds me, not being able to Houdini myself out and not knowing how long it takes)
Wanting to quip, but answering very seriously as this is important. I go to the loo before, so if I need to pee during, it’s not normal and already an emergency.
Important:
When you’re trying out any kind of bondage, always make sure there’s someone around taking care in an emergency.
Read up on how to do bondage with quick release built in. (For example keeping medical scissors around to safely cut ropes)
There’s all kinds of stuff which rarely happens, but if it does there’s urgency. Medical problems, fires, everything else where you need to quickly vacate the room where you are in.
If you are bound someone needs to regularly check on you and keep in call for help distance.
In fact ropes are one of the really dangerous bdsm toys. Go to workshops where you learn how to use them safely.
(I had a wrist injuriy once due to badly applied ropes. Fortunately it healed after a few months and was just minor. But it was enough to make me scared and directly safeword out of the session when the ropes are not done safely on me)
also puppy play! i like to say puppy play is like active mindfulness: instead of focusing on nothing in order to exist in the moment, you pretend you’re a dog and focus on that… dogs don’t pay rent, have jobs, worry about politics, etc… dogs just play, so just play and be in the moment
you get drawn into it, and it works incredibly well for people that get bored with things like meditation
the more you do the easier it is, and the main thing that breaks the headspace is feeling self conscious, but that’s freeing too! once you realise it’s fine to be ridiculous - that nobody cares - it helps with so many other parts of enjoying life (including other kinds of BDSM: people often say puppy play is a gateway kink exactly for this reason)
That’s interesting. “I’m not into puppy play.” (Note the quotes)
What that really means I find it really hard to shut off the rest of my brain and focus on just “being” a dog. There’s at least a meta-commentary track running in my mind all the time.
Another commentator mentioned they needed pain or mind games along bondage, yes that’s what I didn’t mention - I also need some kind of sensory deprivation along (blindfold or so) and at best some noise canceling head phones with a very specific kind of music track that’s helps me lose any feelings for the passage of time.
So I’d like puppy play, if I could also “just arrive in the moment” there. I didn’t learn that, yet.
But this subdiscussion is diverging quite a bit from the original post. Still, I feel it’s still about the same state of mind.
I can’t do that on my own. No way. So I’m into BDSM and bondage.
Yes, bondage is just my way to be able to. meditate. (Ok, it’s being fixed in a decently comfortable position, having trust to who binds me, not being able to Houdini myself out and not knowing how long it takes)
It’s 90% relaxation and 10% sex.
What if you need to pee?
Wanting to quip, but answering very seriously as this is important. I go to the loo before, so if I need to pee during, it’s not normal and already an emergency.
Important:
When you’re trying out any kind of bondage, always make sure there’s someone around taking care in an emergency.
Read up on how to do bondage with quick release built in. (For example keeping medical scissors around to safely cut ropes)
There’s all kinds of stuff which rarely happens, but if it does there’s urgency. Medical problems, fires, everything else where you need to quickly vacate the room where you are in.
If you are bound someone needs to regularly check on you and keep in call for help distance.
In fact ropes are one of the really dangerous bdsm toys. Go to workshops where you learn how to use them safely.
(I had a wrist injuriy once due to badly applied ropes. Fortunately it healed after a few months and was just minor. But it was enough to make me scared and directly safeword out of the session when the ropes are not done safely on me)
I wish I got that out of bondage. It just bores me if not combined with mind games or pain
perhaps try puppy play… i made another reply to OP to explain, but it’s kinda the same thing but gives your brain something to focus on
No it doesn’t.
also puppy play! i like to say puppy play is like active mindfulness: instead of focusing on nothing in order to exist in the moment, you pretend you’re a dog and focus on that… dogs don’t pay rent, have jobs, worry about politics, etc… dogs just play, so just play and be in the moment
you get drawn into it, and it works incredibly well for people that get bored with things like meditation
the more you do the easier it is, and the main thing that breaks the headspace is feeling self conscious, but that’s freeing too! once you realise it’s fine to be ridiculous - that nobody cares - it helps with so many other parts of enjoying life (including other kinds of BDSM: people often say puppy play is a gateway kink exactly for this reason)
That’s interesting. “I’m not into puppy play.” (Note the quotes)
What that really means I find it really hard to shut off the rest of my brain and focus on just “being” a dog. There’s at least a meta-commentary track running in my mind all the time.
Another commentator mentioned they needed pain or mind games along bondage, yes that’s what I didn’t mention - I also need some kind of sensory deprivation along (blindfold or so) and at best some noise canceling head phones with a very specific kind of music track that’s helps me lose any feelings for the passage of time.
So I’d like puppy play, if I could also “just arrive in the moment” there. I didn’t learn that, yet.
But this subdiscussion is diverging quite a bit from the original post. Still, I feel it’s still about the same state of mind.